FAT.

The pressure to be thin comes from so many different directions all throughout our lives. From our parents, relatives, siblings, friends, “well-wishers” and big old social media.

Every single person seems to be obsessed with if they have ‘it’ or if others have ‘it’. Why have you made this into a disease?

Obsessing over small little numbers on a scale and celebrating if from 62 you went to 61.5. Acting like it’s the end of the world because your weight or their weight increased by a couple of kilograms. Are you really that superficial?

It’s the first thing that you point out when you meet a friend or a relative or when you want to describe someone. “Oh, did you see that thin girl”, “oh she’s put on so much weight”, “my god look at that belly”, “wow you’ve lost so much weight”, “I’ve become so fat”, “you should start exercising”.

Do you realize that you’re not helping anyone? You, pointing out that someone looks “chubbier” is in fact 100% going to make them spiral and probably stress eat. YOU are adding to the problem. YOU are in fact a huge part of the problem.

Stressing about your body size puts you at risk for — wait for it — weight gain.

We may tell ourselves that fat stigma is concern over “people’s health”, but don’t kid yourself. Do bullies really care about health when they’re insulting people because of their weight? And if that were the case, shouldn’t smokers be shunned the same way? Shouldn’t alcoholics be called out too? But they aren’t. According to society, it’s okay to drink and smoke but it’s an absolute crime to have fat in your body.

Fat is the ultimate insult because of the assumptions it carries,

with just a glance at someone’s silhouette, we reduce a person to just one word. We make assumptions about their status, motivation, emotional balance, and general worth as a human. And this goes way beyond the superficial beauty standards imposed by society.

Do you for one-minute think that this person doesn’t know that they are fat? That they don’t look into the mirror every day and try and fix their “flaws” by sucking in their stomach or sucking in their cheeks or covering their arms with their hair? Trying so hard to accept their bodies, trying so hard not to eat, trying to be motivated and exercise, taking pills, following any advice they find on the internet, just because someone doesn’t like the way they look and felt the need to let them know.

We’ve all heard the idea that everyone could lose weight if they just tried harder, ate less, exercised more. People assume that those who are fat don’t have the discipline to change their bodies.

This decades long criticism has created the stereotype that fat individuals are lazy, don’t exercise, and are preoccupied with food consumption. They are stereotyped as lacking in self-discipline, as greedy, selfish, and careless.

While diet and exercise are certainly two factors that influence weight gain, so are a whole lot of things that are out of our immediate control: genetics, birth weight, childhood weight, ethnicity, age, medications, stress , motivation, environment etc.

We tend to think of someone who is thin and beautiful as having a more successful and happier life. There are plenty of women out there who are totally happy with how they look but are criticized because of how they look which is what starts the ugly journey of self-criticism, anxiety, stress, depression and gaslighting. This is how a completely happy person can start to hate their bodies and become their own enemy.

People come in all shapes and sizes. The human body has a tremendous capacity for variation, which is why everyone looks different. Someone may be happy with how they look; they may feel they need some serious changes, or somewhere in between, but at the end of the day, the only opinion that should matter is their own. If you don’t like that someone’s fat, thin, short, tall, fair, dark, big or small then CLOSE YOUR GODDAMN EYES.

Another person’s body is NEVER your business, unless that person is a minor in your care showing possible signs of disorder eating and even then, it is not YOUR business to shame them or criticise them. It’s your responsibility to get them help from a qualified professional, one who will determine if there’s a problem and treat it WITHOUT dieting or making it about their size.

The world is filled with enough negativity without you adding to it. If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say it.

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Priya

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